In celebration of Women’s day today, we thought we would take a moment to highlight how much the roles of women in the world have evolved since the infamous “Good Wife’s Guide” of the 1950s was allegedly published. Today, women are even more supportive of one another, and are pursuing their passions without the shackles of previous limitations. Let’s take an updated look at a few tips on how to be a “good wife”…
1950 | Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal — on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.
2019 | Prepare your meal plan for the working week ahead on Sunday. Decide which days your family will order food, which days you will cook, and which days your partner will. If your children are adults, allow them to have a turn to prepare food too. This teaches everyone responsibility and compassion for each other.
1950 | Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
2019 | Share your day with your partner as you both prepare dinner, or relax together. Be honest in your communication with one another – some days your partner may need a little extra attention, other days you will. Makeup is always optional – kind of like how shaving is optional for men!
1950 | Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
2019 | Make sure that both parents take the responsibility of teaching children hygienic habits as a lifelong lesson. Your kids have missed you all day too. Be present. Put your phone down and interact with them. Take turns doing whatever is required in the evenings – from feeding to bathing to putting the children to bed. Both partners are parents and therefore, both partners should parent!
1950 | Take him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.
2019 | Sit together with your partner as you enjoy a cup of tea or glass of wine, and spend time appreciating their company. You both deserve to relax and unwind at the end of a day, and what better way than with your loved one? I’m sure you’re both quite comfortable (and capable of) taking off your own shoes!
1950 | Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
2019 | Date your spouse. Make time to experience your relationship outside of the home. From watching a movie, to going out for drinks, or simply walking a mall window-shopping, experiencing the world together creates opportunities to explore your relationship – and its fun! Or, if staying in is what you both need after a long day at the office, create a relaxing environment at home where you both can relax.
A modern man’s viewpoint:
My partner is a psychologist and this year we got engaged. My work gives me a lot more free time, and as such, we have a much more 21st-century notion of domestic roles and emotional labour. I do the laundry and cooking at home. I think as men we need to let go of traditional roles in the house and take ownership of our shared labour and parenting.
– Sean Mongie (26), screenwriter
To believe a woman’s role is to please a man and raise his children is outrageous, narrow-minded and outdated. Many would agree that this seems more like a comedic piece rather than an actual guide, however, sadly a hauntingly similar mindset remains throughout much of modern-day society today… The ideal household should see all duties shared between a husband and wife, and a relationship that looks more like a partnership.Hopefully we’ll see more instances of men standing up for women’s rights.
– Joel Magic (27), paid media specialist
The modern ‘role’ of a woman has changed; a change that is vastly better. I don’t see women as those whom are to serve men. We are to work, grow and live life together in unity, whether it be a work colleague, partner or friend.
– Michael Shaw (27), bioprocess engineer
Reconsidering gender roles in the 21st century catalyzes much change and growth in the world’s perception of what it means to be a woman. I guess part of our role in unification is to live by and love the philosophies of our truths. Speaking, listening and being free are our duties. More stories of women being women for the sake and sanctity of women, please.
– Dan Botha (26), teacher
I think that it’s about sharing a life together. I think that if one partner is cooking, one can help by washing the dishes. If they’re cooking together, treat it as an activity or chore – add some laughter! My partner and I are like this in the life that we share.
– Levine Pillay (32), digital media